Girlfriend still communicates with ex-boyfriends?

hey, thanks for reading. i have been with my girlfriend for about 7 months now. from the beginning i knew she still remained friends with one of her ex-boyfriends. he was basically in iraq during most of the relationship. she claims that they were friends before they started dating and that she was in it for the wrong reasons. he was more or less a rebound boyfriend for her to help her get over her previous relationship. she said she never had feelings for him and she broke it off with him. however, they still remain "friends". they communicate with eachother through text and myspace a few times a week. he is overseas now. however, when he was home for the holidays she went out to dinner with him. she asked if it was ok. i agreed to it. however we had a big fight afterwards and almost broke up. i read into some of her myspace messages/comments. she always says she misses/loves him. she calls him things like handsome and cutie. i find this totally inappropriate. anyone agree?

Girlfriend still communicates with ex-boyfriends?

The first thing is you really can't get mad (unless something happened between them) about the dinner, since you did agree to it. The second thing is that she is being completely inapropriate. That is definitely stepping over boundaries. She should not be telling an ex boyfriend that she loves him. You deserve so much better than that. Talk to to her about it, and if she continues to do it, find someone who will love only you, and who deserves you. I know that's easier said than done, but you'll be happier in the end, I think. You have every right to be upset about this... So whatever you do, don't feel like the "bad guy." She'll probably try to make you feel that way...

(I do think exes can be friends, by the way... but she shouldn't be saying things like that to him. What are they saying when no one else can see??)

Girlfriend still communicates with ex-boyfriends?

oh wow, TOTALLY inappropriate. I'm all for staying in touch with ex's as a friend, but calling them 'cutie' and saying you love them? No way. And going out to dinner alone? She is asking too much of you that a normal relationship should not be asked to tolerate. I don't think this is a matter of 'trust', it's right and wrong and if what you say is accurate she is doing wrong. I wouldn't stand for that.

Girlfriend still communicates with ex-boyfriends?

That's definitely inappropriate.

Being "just friends" with an ex does not exist.

Girlfriend still communicates with ex-boyfriends?

If you don't trust her...end the relationship. It's that simple.

Girlfriend still communicates with ex-boyfriends?

shes' a no no

Girlfriend still communicates with ex-boyfriends?

yeah, she has the "soldier" complex. when he gets back your gonna get dumped.

Girlfriend still communicates with ex-boyfriends?

either you trust her or you don't. you don't.

Girlfriend still communicates with ex-boyfriends?

I agree with you and if she don't your gonna continue to have nothing but problems..But you know that..Don't you?

Girlfriend still communicates with ex-boyfriends?

I keep in touch with one of my ex boyfriends. We were great friends before and during our relationship, and even though it didn't work out romantically, we still have a strong friendship. However, I don't flirt with him or compliment him all the time like you are describing. To be flirty like that IS inappropriate and you are right to be frustrated. I hate to rat a girl out, but it sounds as though she's still into him.

Girlfriend still communicates with ex-boyfriends?

got to a admit i would be a bit suspicius... but if you really trust her then just leave it alone...dont let it screw up the relationship then afterwards figure out nothing is going on.

Girlfriend still communicates with ex-boyfriends?

definitly not okay. being friends with an ex... it doesnt happen.

Girlfriend still communicates with ex-boyfriends?

i agree with you.at the begin of it i was thinking that you need a little more trust but the i miss you and love you is overboard

Girlfriend still communicates with ex-boyfriends?

Why don't you talk to her how you feel.

Honestly, I don't think friendship between ex exists, but,

who knows, she might believes in it.

Girlfriend still communicates with ex-boyfriends?

i think that because he is in iraq now and probably wasnt when they were together initially, that an old flame has been re-kindled inside of her- she see's him in a different light- obviously she really doesn't have any regard

for your feelings or she would'nt let you feel this way, you need to give her an ultimatum other wise this relationship will continue to have a drain in your life, hope to have helped!

Girlfriend still communicates with ex-boyfriends?

Yes i agree for the reason of what was written. ask her to be straight out, say

(now it might hurt) there is no wrong answer,

what's the reason she wrote that.

if u are having a trust issue, then you may

need to walk away for peace of mind.

talking from experience. unless your looking to

marry this girl, walk away

Girlfriend still communicates with ex-boyfriends?

I completely agree with you. She needs to respect the fact that your "now" her boyfriend. Its understandable for them to remain friends... theres no harm in that. But, i think shes drawing the line a little with the myspace messages/comments %26amp;%26amp; text messages. Its just not fair to you. I understand your situation because a similar thing happened between my ex and I where he was the one writing messages and so fourth. If i were you...simply confront her about it again.. in a calm matter. Explain to her that it makes you feel a little uncomfortable and you'd rather her not be so "flirty" with him. Do also tell her that your not telling her to not keep a friendship with him..but to show a little respect to your feelings as well.

have her imagine herself in your shoes.... ask her if she'd like for you to act that way with your ex? i don't think she'll like it very much.

%26amp;%26amp; if she cant respect your decisios or request..then i think you should really decide whether thats the kind of relationship you want to be in.

i hope my advice helped you.