My husband messages woman and tells me he is helping them..?

My husband will myspace,and text message woman(ex-girlfriend,another that I know of). When I first found out I thought it was funny. Then I noticed he was e-mailing and texting them 10-15 times a day. I found 64 text messages on by bill just to his ex last month. I told him I thought it was wrong and I want him to quit. He said "it's not like that",I just think they are interesting to talk to". (THANKS). He was only helping them because they asked.(the ex girfriend thing he is the one who contacted her). then I noticed he was deleteing all of his messages. and if I was in the room he would not open it, until I walked away. Yes, he did show me a few messages, and they weren't bad, but he would read throught it before letting me see how inoccent he is. My husband never would have went behind my back to do this before. within the last three months I have noticed this happening. it is hard for me to trust him anymore, I always think he is hiding something. what should I do.

My husband messages woman and tells me he is helping them..?

There is nothing innocent about texting his ex 64 times in a month. He needs to stop the text messages as well as the e-mails. If he is innocent and loves you, then he will see that this hurts you. Otherwise, he is hiding something.

My husband messages woman and tells me he is helping them..?

It doesn't matter if it's "innocent" -- it's a threat to your intimacy. He can't control whom he likes or is attracted to, but he can control his availability to them. Either he will see this point and change his behavior, or you are headed for betrayal.

My husband messages woman and tells me he is helping them..?

It could be how it starts out, innocently but I've seen first hand how it gets into more and more of a sexual thing. Same thing happened to my friend.

Tell him you won't put up with it. Plain and simple. Good luck hon.

My husband messages woman and tells me he is helping them..?

Listen to your instincts - if you get that feeling that he is cheating he probably is. Sit him down and talk to him openly that all this sneaking around and talking to his ex and other women is making you lose trust in him. He'll probably come up with a million and one excuses as to why he isn't cheating, if he really is cheating. If it is all harmless then he will stop and respect your feelings. If he doesn't well you are going to have to decide whether you want to stay married or find someone else.

My husband messages woman and tells me he is helping them..?

he is one the road to cheating and is doing it right before your very eyes. 2 things, you either ignore it and hope for the best or you confront him and demand he stops texting and emailing her. No other way around it.

My husband messages woman and tells me he is helping them..?

Okay then if it is so innocent and he is helping him then you should be able to be sitting by his side while he is helping them and you should be able to help them with him and together with him as a couple. Talk to him and tell him that if he has nothing to hide then to let you see everything he is typing and has typed to them. I feel he is lying to you and that he is doing more then just helping them. Tell him how this bothers you and ask him to stop . Have him take a lie detector test too or even take him on the Maury show.

My husband messages woman and tells me he is helping them..?

you say your husband would never do this behind your back. he has honey and will continue to do it. he is not innocent by all means. you may need to get divorced behind all of this. if he is screening his messages so you can see all the innocent chatter then there is something more going on.

My husband messages woman and tells me he is helping them..?

You know deep down whats really going on with your man. Act accordingly.

My husband messages woman and tells me he is helping them..?

It doesn't sound very innocent to me! A married man has no business emailing or texting his ex's or other women. Especially saying that he is just helping them. If he is just helping out an old friend, then he should have talked to you about it first or he should let you see what and who he is texting or typing. I am a married man and my wife and I share an email address and all our passwords. I have nothing to hide from her. She's my wife, I trust her more than anybody and you should be able to feel that way about your husband. Tell him how much this hurts you and that it is affecting your marriage. Tell him that he needs to stop right now %26amp; spend that time with you instead of talking to other women on the computer. If he loves you and respects the marriage, he will stop. Good luck.

My husband messages woman and tells me he is helping them..?

I am sure your husband knows how to help women really well...sorry I was being sarcastic... if this woman needed help so badly, why does he not say "ask my wife"

He is only helping her in the bedroom.

My husband messages woman and tells me he is helping them..?

when he is spending time with them, talking or anything, he is taking something from u, think if he is picking and choosing what he wishes to show u than there is a problem here. when a man starts cheating emotionally or physically he will change, and not for the good. when there isn't any trust most of the time the marriage is already over with. seems as if he is hiding something if he won't let u see all of the messages. give him an ultimatum than if he doesn't comply there is no more u can do, and u will have to than decide if this is the way u want to live.

My husband messages woman and tells me he is helping them..?

They are more important to him than you